My Name is Elizabeth and in November 30,2008 my baby girl Lyra Dixie Kimberley LaCosse was born at 7:55 p.m. then December 1,2008 at 1:18 a.m. my little girl died. I never got to hold her only after she had passed. I do have pics of her thanks to a photo place called "Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep." They took pics of me and my passing child so I could have pics of her. Even now as I read some of the comments of people who have lost a child, I start to cry cause I have been taking all of my lost and not letting it out. I basically bottled it up inside and not letting it come out at all. When I started to read the feelings I have for my little girl comes flowing out with so many tears. My Fiance and I don't talk about it at all it is like in a way I hate to put it she was never born. Then all of a sudden when I see her pics I start to cry all over again! I wish I could talk to my Fiance about our daughter but he rather grief in silence while I am the one who wants to scream, shout, and jump up and down saying it isn't fair that my little girl is gone. I know it is normal for a parent or parents to grief in different ways but it is hard to talk about her with him when he just wants to bottle it up inside. I am so greatful that there is a place I can go to be able to talk about my little girl.
Elizabeth, I'm so glad you found Share, and I would love to hear more about Lyra if you want to share her story. Have you joined our message boards yet?Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep is such a wonderful organization...you must treasure those photos.You are right...moms and dads usually grieve so very differently, and it can be hard to take when it seems as if they don't want to talk about it while you do. Sometimes, they don't talk about it because they think they have to be the strong one, and they don't want to make you sad. They don't always realize that they make you more sad by NOT talking about it. Have you tried telling him that you need to talk about her? Maybe he's afraid to. Welcome to Share, Elizabeth. You have found a caring, safe place to share your baby girl.